Sometimes you wait.
Sometimes you let the situation be what it is without judgment or storytelling.
You do not try to control it or add to it, but simply notice the feelings and let them wash away like waves on a white sandy beach.
This is not a perspective that I’ve be able to harbor in most situations in my life, but as I start to understand my own life and the things that cause me pain and joy I’ve been able to notice some of my self-sabotaging behaviors. Controlling, accelerating, analyzing situations is quite the nasty habit.
This time though, I feel the top emotions and the deeper ones. I notice them all and decided not to do more than that. It is what is, a statement I never thought I would be able to use as justification, seems applicable here.
“Be careful,” my friends say. “You’ve been here before and the outcome likely won’t be different.”
I do not know how it will work out. I do not know all the details. And I can’t guarantee that I won’t jerk in reaction tomorrow, but right now I feel stillness.
Hours later, I am full of emotions. “I am shaking,” I tell him as we walk out and find our normal route to the train. Our meditation group tonight talked about being with our anxiety and, although I’ve tried that all day, it’s hitting me not like a wave but like a freaking tsunami. “I am so full of emotions.” He laughs. I want to cry. But then I breathe. I stare at the wintery sky. It’s supposed to be a burden after such beautiful springish days, but now I find it reassuring.
This moment, full of so much energy and emotion, here I am meant to be. I am meant to use it up and let it propel me forward, because all I need is right here. The rest is details and stories I simply don’t need. It will all unravel but as long as I hold on to the present then I will not only stay above water but I will soar.